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Att visa sårbarhet

Av Ann-Britt - 18 september 2015 14:30

Att visa sårbarhet/utsatthet är en utmaning för vår självbild, det vi tror på och känslan utmanar våra invanda mönster. Det vi kan fråga oss är vad är det som utmanas? Vad är vi rädda för? Vad måste kanske ändras för att acceptera denna insikt? Vår reaktion om vi inte är beredda att ändra vårt mönster kan bli panik eller ilska.


När man ser på strukturer oss människor emellan är det inte helt ovanligt att en person som har svårt att erkänna sin egen sårbarhet använder andras sårbarhet emot dem genom att förlöjliga dem eller prata bakom deras rygg. 


Det kräver förtroende mellan medlemmarna i en grupp att kunna erkänna sin sårbarhet och veta att den inte används på fel sätt.


Alltså tvärtemot vad man gör i många grupper idag i vårt konkurrenssamhälle. Trist, för jag tror att folk som vågar visa sina mjuka/sårbara sidor och vågar lita på andras goda avsikter är människor som vågar experimentera och slänga sig ut på nya vatten. Men då måste man kunna lita på sina medarbetare/vänner.


Jag klipper in Camilles berättelse från vår kurs i HHT. Här handlar det om sårbarht hos både människa och häst.

Channeling With Horses

 The more we work with horses, the more we understand a fundamental point. Horses understand flow. Maybe this has a connection with the fact that they are prey animals and flight is their security. It must also be a reflection of their higher energy and their engagement with life. For horses, movement is one of their greatest resources. They express themselves fully when they are uninhibited and free. Their physical body is adapted for it and their mind is balanced when they can go. This is why training must be about channeling and not stifling that movement.

 Bailarino is a majestic young stallion we met in Sweden. His story is a perfect illustration of this concept of channeling. He has recently become old (hormonal) enough to begin fighting in earnest with his fellow stallion Aciano. His breeder Ann-Britt had to separate them, and so he was in quite a frustrated state of mind, which spilled out into his connection with his human handlers. Kenneth had been advised even before this situation arose to control him by keeping him out of his personal space, and the only way to do that was to create some tension between them with the lunge whip.


 The first thing we were working on was to allow that a horse IS welcome in our personal space, and we are happy with that because we trust them. At a deep level we have to accept that we are safe in the presence of another being, whether it is a cat or a stallion. Our trust must come first, otherwise there is no solid platform to build our relationship upon. It is important to be honest with ourselves, and become aware of any fear we have - which is perfectly natural - but which also limits our connection. Acknowledgment is the way towards release.


 When Kenneth allowed Bailarino into his space, he took it as an invitation to play (fight). That playing had been recently evolving into serious fighting with the other stallion, and although he understood that it wasn't appropriate to fight (full-on) with a person, he didn't just know what to do with his energy, and his frustration spilled over sometimes. Not only that, when he was given the opportunity to relax and feel at ease with a person, he also began to feel playful again, because this was the only channel he knew for his energy. Our job was to open a new channel and close off the inappropriate one.


 Closing off the 'play' channel was about either ignoring the behaviour associated with it, or transforming it into a different format. That meant when Bailarino wanted to bite and throw himself around, instead of punishing him for that, or driving him away, it was important to make a (comfort-inducing) physical connection and join that up with a request for him to yield. It's a bit like being a big, calm sponge which is absorbing his tension, his agitation and his inappropriate behaviour and altering it's turbulent energy into streamlined energy. This was achieved with him by touching in a massaging/embracing way and when he crossed a boundary to make contact with that part of him and 'shepherd' him back to the boundary. It is important to feel the difference between creating separation and creating a friendly connection. Driving him away would create a separation, whereas influencing him to alter the direction of his energy would create a new channel.


 The channel we wanted to open for Bailarino was showing him how to use his body to move straight, and then engage his postural ring and eventually come into self carriage. We were just at the very beginning of forming the channel at all, and for him it was a big deal to consider yielding in this way! He was trying to work out if it was a challenge, and it made him feel vulnerable at first. That is why it was so important for Kenneth to be the first one to become vulnerable, otherwise Bailarino would never have been able to match that energy, and expose himself.

 Bit by bit he would gain confidence in the fact that he could use all of his energy, and no-one wanted to block him, or reduce him in any way or keep him at a distance. Tension was neither used as a tool or accepted in ourselves, and he was discovering that being in the same energetic space with a human was a secure and fulfilling experience, because his needs were being understood. It is also a fulfilling experience for us because we can become a facilitator, a catalyst through which all that powerful and marvelous movement can fl.


 

 
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Av Ann-Britt - 20 april 2016 20:15


Allt som allt tror jag att jag varit i ridhuset 7-8 gånger med Cassiopeia. Hon har gått från tämligen hysterisk till att kunna sittas på under dessa få gånger. I mitt tycke ganska fantastiskt. Idag har Ingrid stått i stigbygeln och vi gick några ...

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